As I’ve mentioned before, it bothers me when pastors and leaders expect absolute loyalty from those they lead. Loyalty is something earned as people begin to trust you. It’s not something you can demand without eroding the relationship. Furthermore, honest dialog is not a sign that people are “haters” or that they don’t think you are a good leader. It might be that their disagreement is providential.
Paul and Barnabas didn’t agree over who should join them on their missionary endeavors. They parted ways and it led to the spread of the gospel. Not all disagreement is rooted in selfish motives and behaviors. Leaders need to keep that in mind the next time they are tempted to dismiss someone who doesn’t agree with their ideas.