Why Marriage Matters

It’s been nearly a month since the Supreme Court tried to rewrite several millennia of history regarding the definition of marriage. As disappointing as that ruling was, what has followed has been far more troubling. It has been both disheartening and alarming to hear Christians say that marriage is another area where we will have to “agree to disagree.” It “doesn’t matter” how marriage is defined as long as two people are committed to one another. I beg to differ. We should expect non-believers to think and act like non-believers. We should also expect believers to think and act like believers.

Marriage was created by God as a relationship between one man and one woman (Gen 2:24). Jesus affirmed this view of marriage (Matt 19:4-6) and the Apostle Paul conveyed the beautiful and mysterious reality that marriage is a picture of the gospel (Eph 5:31-33). The relationship between Christ and his church is mirrored only by the relationship between a husband and a wife. This makes marriage a gospel issue. Not in the sense of “this is how you are saved” but in the sense of “this is what it means to be saved.” To dismiss the biblical view of marriage and relegate it to a doctrine of secondary importance is to call into question one’s understanding of the gospel and its moral implications for believers. As the creator of marriage, God gets to decide what it is and isn’t. He’s clearly spoken. And unlike any human construct or proclamation, His word never fails.